Hello everybody.

I have been missing in action. It all started when my "boy friend" found out this blog, and kept reading it on the sly without telling me. I am afraid this blog is going to be full of questions about your opinions. I am sorry in advance.

Question #1) what do you think of the "boy friend" 's action? Should he not have came right out and told me that he came across my blog?

2nd, I think he has now joined the savings advice blog.

We have been together for 3 years. That's right 3 years. We got together when he was "separated" from his then wife and was going to "file" for divorce. Of course, naively I believed him

Fast forward almost 2 years - he still had to file for a divorce. Sure he had moved out and was living in a different city by now etc. But the actual act of filing for a divorce? None, Nada, Zip.

Reasons:
#1)Oh, they wanted to sell the house first. (The house was in both their names even though he says he paid for every single thing- car, house, furnitures everything )

#2) Oh, his mom got sick and needed operation and he didn't want to break the news to her in case she took it badly. Him and his wife had an "arranged marriage".

#3) Oh, the wife said the house was flooded and couldn't be put in the market before fixing it. (She was living in the house and he was living somewhere else)

#4) Oh, the house got flooded again.

#5) some other bs

#6) some other bs

#7)so on....

#8) and so on.....


He finally filed for a divorce. He ended up giving everything to her, the condition was to sell the house after the divorce and split any profit.

Fast forward to today, 2008

#1) She is still living in the house

#2) There is no sign of the house being sold and have this lingering baggage from his past ever laid to rest. How is anybody to think of a future with someone who hasn't been able to take care of the past? And not for lack of time, either. I have given him plenty of time. How is it going to be possible for us to buy a house, build a future in this situation?


Fast forward to today, I feel like I have had to put my life on hold for somebody else's mistakes. Since day one, it's never been him and me working towards our future. It's been me, him and his baggage that he never managed to take care of properly. Whenever I brought up his divorce, he would say things like "oh, I am gonna do it the best way so that it's good for everybody. If you can't handle it, you can leave". I gave him time , thinking well his divorce was actually none of my business. Well, guess what, it ended up being my business when it has put 3 years of my life on hold. Well...who did it benefit the most? His ex.

Well I am glad he's joined saving advice. I hope he learns something financial here so he doesn't make stupid financial mistakes again.

He says "you should be able to understand me and my situation". Right back at you. Who is going to understand me? and my wasted 3 years?

Sorry guys for this too personal vent. But I need your opinions. Good, bad or ugly. When the dust has settled, I will probably blog again, but under a different name.